Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Healthy heart = Happy life

If you are not “religious” and you are reading this I hope you can respect my beliefs as I try to always be mindful and respectful of other people’s beliefs. I say religious in inverted commas because I feel the beauty and true meaning of it is lost; and instead of bring people together it divides people. I have a relationship with God. That is the best and only way to describe it. But that is a topic for another day.

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” – Proverbs 4:23
A very special and wise lady recently brought this to my attention. She told me that just as you watch what you eat and exercise to stir clear of heart diseases; why would you not put that much effort into your emotional heart? And yes I am aware that your emotions and feels etc. do not actually live in your heart. How we treat our bodies can either be life giving or life taking, and as far as I’m concerned how we treat our hearts can also be life giving or live taking. So be good to your mind, body and soul and give yourself a rich life full of all the happiness and love you deserve.

“I truly believe that often we cause our own pain by resisting the changes that are a natural part of life. Not everyone comes into your life to stay forever – and that is a fact. People will eventually leave, either through death or because it is simply time to move on.
Our children are a good example. They fill your life so completely but when they are grown, life changes and they create their own homes and families and your relationship with them changes.
Lovers and friends come into our lives for a reason. Some stay a lifetime and others stay a heartbeat. Don’t resist when someone is a heartbeat rather than a lifetime. They move on for their own sake as well as your own.
Release them with the joy that you had them for a while, and pray for grace, so that you can remember the good times with peace.
You know that change is life. Resisting change only brings pain to you, and cannot make a lifetime out of a relationship meant to be a heartbeat. I love you always. Whatever else changes, that won’t.”  - Pamela Kauffman
When I said she was special and wise, that was no lie. I hope that her wisdom comes in handy to some of you. If you’ve struggled with heartbreak or your heart is on its last because of neglect. Coming to terms with things will not be easy but I can guarantee you it’s worth it. I can guarantee this because I know you are worth. Everyone is! Love is not something that some deserve and others do not.
I wish for you all, lots of happiness and healthy hearts (physically and emotionally).
Be brave and love you!!

God bless people :)
(No matter what God you believe in!)

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Nothing to fear

I’ve been avoiding this for a long time, but I’m on a growing streak and I want to continue on this new path. So fear can just step aside while I face this. I have been living for the future. When I move out then my life will finally begin. When I earn my own money my life will finally begin. And that is just absolutely good for nothing. It dawned upon me that if I were to die right now...I wouldn’t have lived at all. I would have no memories that I made on purpose. I would be forgettable.

Why wait for something to happen before you ‘start living’. And if you must insist on waiting for an event...how about waking up? That’s an event and once it’s happened (so once you’ve woken up) you can begin from there. Do the things you want to do. The things you love to do.

I'm pretty sure it hurts God to see you me, his little girl, let fear determine the things I do or more accurately the things I don’t do.  This time I’m not going talk about what I think can be done to fix it. Because luckily in this case, if you share my problem, it’s as easy as doing what you dream about. Don’t dream about being a writer, start writing. Don’t dream about becoming a photographer...get a camera and find a course.

Fear (according to the dictionary) is an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat. So please tell me, what good reason you would have to fear your dreams?



God bless people :)
(No matter what God you believe in!)

Thursday, February 2, 2012

I'll vote for me!


You are more in control over your life than you think, whether you believe in karma, God or the secret. They all tell you that how you behave and think will determine what kind of life you will live. Knowing this is the easy part, owning it and living it on the other hand is far more complicated. Not because we don’t want good things for ourselves, of course not. One thing that is true for every human being is that we are selfish. The degrees of selfishness differ, but that is a topic for another day.  As I was saying, we all want good things for ourselves and for our lives.  Where we go wrong, or at least, where I go wrong is deceiving myself. Fall out boy put it so simply “the best part of beLIEve is the LIE”.

There is hope! Once you have figured out that you have been lying to yourself and face it. The rest is easy. I wish I could tell you how to fix it and guarantee that it will work, but I can’t. I will tell you what I’m trying and you can do what you will with it. So, like everyone else, I wanted good things for myself and for my life. I thought I believed in myself and believed that I deserved it...however my actions said otherwise. Going into a task or a test I prepared myself and others for the fail that I expected to follow. Now looking back I feel almost foolish for not seeing that I was the one person holding me back, I was responsible for not being where I wanted to be. I believed my lies; I was good at selling myself the lies. But! with a little tough love from my best friend and some hectic thinking. I realized that I was not on my own team. That was the hardest part.

Now I have to change my mindset, change the image I have of myself. I have to convince myself that I’m this brilliant beautiful woman, who has got a lot to offer.  I’m convincing myself to have faith in me and to back me with everything I do...knowing (well trying to, anyways) that I’m going to do everything I put my mind to. Along the way I’ll reward myself and praise myself for the things I do right. I’ll assess the things that did not go so well and see how I can fix it, and letting go of the unfix-able things without beating myself up unnecessarily, while never losing faith or hope.  That was a mouth full and slightly confusing, so I hope you followed. The best part of this whole process is that it is actually fun! I love, finding new ways to love myself. I love waking up happy, just because I know what I’m capable of so much. Mostly I love that more and more I am beginning to whole heartedly believe in myself.

I’m always saying to people...”don’t stress you’ll give yourself cancer” or “stop being so negative, you’ll give yourself cancer.”  Happiness is only a though away people. Believe in yourselves...if you cannot how must I.

God bless people :)
(No matter what God you believe in!)